Separate, Unique & Whole

I was reminded of my failed marriage today. No, nobody rubbed it in my face. I only had to see the happy couples in church today flashing their red and white attires, to remember that once upon a time, I was a married woman. I saw friends who got married same year as I did. They were happy. I was happy too, for them. I really was. It meant 'this thing works'.

For a brief moment, my heart almost gave way. I wanted to leave the service. How was I going to survive this peppery service ooooo? 😂 Red and white everywhere!

Then I determined I was going to get through it. It's not their fault that my own marriage didn't work out. They were just having a great time showcasing God's ideal design for marriages. I am glad I did not cowardly escape. Midway through Praise and worship, I was okay again. Holy Spirit friend reminded me too that I was loved. I also remember asking myself if I preferred to wear white and red in the marriage I had been in, than to be happily single in the mufti I was in? 😂 That did it for me.

Singleness is not hard. Aloneness is. I've been married and I've been single, and I can tell you that being married doesn't always equate having company.

So my dear single friends, instead of feeling bad that you have not been 'coupled' with anyone yet, be truly single first. Dr. Myles Munroe of blessed memory defined Singleness as being Separate, Unique and Whole. Are you these three yet, or are you still seeking validation from people who don't matter after all?

Be single but don't be alone. It is not good for Mankind to be alone (Genesis 2:18). Don't shut yourself in. Be open to making true friends. Not everyone is evil (are you?). Seek out great partnerships at work, in church, or any organization you find yourself in. Improve on existing family ties; share jokes with your parents; gist with your siblings; babysit your nieces, nephews and cousins; opt to take care of an ailing family member even if for a day so that the regular person who takes care of them can find time to rest.

Be kind to a colleague. Don't be overly serious with your 'office face'. Life is not that complicated.

Reconnect with an old friend - make that phonecall now. Smile at the bank Teller, give a compliment to the supermarket Attendant, be more patient with the bus conductor... Stop frowning for no reason - you are not responsible for the rotation of the earth on its axis. Laugh some more. Chill. 😂

Living is meant to be in a community. That is God's original design. You don't have to be married to experience love. There are various strata of love, experience other aspects of love on your journey to experiencing marital love.

Married people were all hues and heats of pepper this weekend sha.... We are genuinely happy for them. We are happy for ourselves too, because we have life and we have God. All things are possible.

Don't put your life on hold just because your life partner hasn't showed up yet.

Live Today.

Sista Mercie